Interviewing Madonna – whether it be an invigorating round table discussion or during a one-on-one wet dream interview come true – is an event.
During a recent Q & A, the chanteuse’s latest film role was examined. Throughout it one could not help but wonder which role Madonna herself feels best suited. Is she: A] an icon; B] an entertainer; C] a mother; D] all of the above?
Before you answer this question, remember that Madonna is undoubtedly the most iconographic personality in the world. And among music-loving gay men, testosterone-charged teenage boys, midriff baring high school girls and back-to-school working mothers, the entertainer once known for her forays into the naughty and decadent underground is now primarily knows as Lourdes’ mom. The role of motherhood is, perhaps happily for Madonna, The Next Best Thing.
Next: How important are male friendships in your life?
Madonna: Incredibly important. I mean, friendship is really important to me. It just so happens – strangely enough – that most of my friends are gay men. I don’t know how it worked out that way.
Next: If the right man came along, are you in a place in your life where you’re open to the possibility of marriage?
Madonna: Possibly. [Smiles broadly]
Next: What is your attachment to gay men?
Madonna: My attachment? I don’t know. I don’t really think about it.
Next: Would you fall in love with Rupert Everett? And have you?
Madonna: Essentially, yeah. I mean, I adore him, I love him. And, you know, I’m sure if he were straight, things would be different. [Laughs] I don’t know!
Next: After the birth of Lourdes, it’s been said of you that female relationships have become of greater importance to you. Do you feel that way?
Madonna: I had lots of really good friends – girlfriends – before I had my daughter. Well, I wouldn’t say lots , I’d say a handful. I’ve had a handful of really good friends – male and female. The only difference now is I can probably relate to mothers more since I had a baby. I’ve become much closer to my sister, for instance, who has children as a result of that. I think that happens to most women with children; you gravitate towards other women with children, generally, because you’ve got more in common with them. You can pick their brains and complain together.
Next: Religion has figured greatly in your life and in your art. How do you intend to have religion affect your own child?
Madonna: That is a conundrum. I don’t know. I’m very conflicted about that. I don’t exactly know how to do that. I mean, I talk about God to my daughter when we say prayers every night before she goes to bed. And she was baptized a Catholic, but I’m not really sure how I feel about the concept of organized religion. So, I don’t know, I don’t know. I don’t know exactly how I am going to introduce that into her life.
Next: Do you have a private life?
Madonna: Yeah. [Laughs] I have a private life now – I always have. And I just think that that’s a misconception that a lot of people have had about me – that I expose everything about myself. And that there is nothing that is private, when in fact so much is. Plus, I didn’t really become famous until, I guess, I was about twenty-four or twenty- five. [Laughs] Until then I had to wait in line.
Next: What is the biggest misconception about you?
Madonna: That I’m insecure and vulnerable and full of fears. [Laughs] And that I’m strong and fearless and no one ever says, ‘No,’ to me. And that I’m in control of everything – all that nonsense.
Next: In The Next Best Thing your character Abbie has a lot of those same qualities you speak of. She is also ruled to a great point by the men in her life at different points in the film. How similar or dissimilar is Abbie to you?
Madonna: Well, I do have some things in common with Abbie. I have found myself in situations with men – even though I had nothing to do with the writing of the line – where I’ve said, ‘Wait a second. You mean if I had less to offer you, I’d have a better chance in a relationship?’ I didn’t exactly say it like that, but there have been many situations in my life where I feel like my accomplishments and my success and things like that have actually hindered certain relationships from taking place. So, I can relate to that, but obviously my life and Abbie’s life are very different. But I think a lot of situations she made, you know, the way that she chose to have a baby and raise the baby and all of those things, I probably wouldn’t have done those things — in fact I’m sure I wouldn’t have done those things.